Georgy’s Motherhood Musings (1)

MMy name is Georgy and I was lucky enough to be blessed with two incredibly loving, amazing parents, one of whom is Dr Howard Chilton.

In December of last year my husband Rhys and I welcomed a little pink bundle into the world by the name of Lara. Since then I have been learning the ropes of motherhood by strictly following the parenting style known at “Winging It.”

Dad has asked me to share some of my thoughts here on his page in the hopes that some of his mummy followers will be able to relate. Since we all know that maternity leave really just involves mummy lunches, baking cakes and staring wistfully at a calm, sleeping baby all day, I figured I could probably find the time to share a few things here and there…. (Wait, what?)

So for my first post I just want to say how shocked I am by how many “rules” there are out there with regards to bringing up a baby.

According to numerous mummy blogs and articles written by ‘infant sleep consultants’ (that’s a job, according to a close friend of mine, you become qualified for by having a baby yourself who is a fantastic sleeper), apparently if you just follow your intuition and take a relaxed approach to parenting you will end up creating a monster.

Specifically, a monster who never (EVER!) learns how to self-settle and who will require you to breastfeed her, whilst singing “twinkle, twinkle little star” and bouncing up and down on a fit ball with her in your arms every day until her 18th birthday.

Well don’t I feel foolish. And here I was enjoying rocking, feeding and cuddling my sweet baby to sleep. What a novice I am! I can’t even start to comprehend how embarrassing it’s going to be for Lara to have to drag me with her to school camp and her friend’s sleepover parties just so she can get some shut-eye. Like being a teenager isn’t mortifying enough!

So after scouring through the online treasure trove of sleep advice, I have come to the conclusion that I have two options here.

  • I can carry on enjoying my baby and helping her off to sleep in a way that is nice and easy for the both of us, or
  • I can stop being such a lazy parent and start some “gentle” sleep training techniques. This may require a bit more effort on my part and maybe a few tears (baby’s, mum’s or both) but eventually baby will “learn” that she doesn’t need me to fall asleep and she can comfort herself. That, despite only being 4 months new, she doesn’t need her embarrassing mother with her terrible singing voice to rock her and hold her while her delicate long lashes get heavier and her big blue eyes close in adorable defeat as sleep takes over…

Actually, you know what? Scrap the sleep training. While the rocking, feeding, singing and bouncing is keeping everyone happy, I think I will just stick with what works. And maybe I will just need to look into buying a bigger fit ball.

By |May 5th, 2015|3 Comments

About the Author:

Georgy is an IBCLC and Midwife who lives in the Northern Rivers of NSW with her husband and two beautiful children.

3 Comments

  1. Robyn May 7, 2015 at 12:36 am

    Thanks Georgy, I too subscribe to the ‘Winging It’ mothering style. It totally allows us as women to love and care for our children the way they require it. No rules. Just Love. And as women, we totally know what is needed from the amazing wisdom we all hold within us. So no need for silly imposing rules!

  2. Natalie May 9, 2015 at 10:43 pm

    Love it. I rocked both of my babies to sleep every sleep time. Thay are now 5 and 3 and I still love to cuddle with them at night for bedtime. It’s a joyful bonding time for us.
    they are both confident outgoing girls and niether of them have ever needed a comforter (they have me for that).
    I tried sleep school but it was horrible, didn’t work and just felt wrong, and I only tried it because of peer pressure.
    rocking is the way to go.

  3. Nicola Furst July 10, 2015 at 2:21 am

    A very good funny article. Very pleased to read some common sense!!! Was starting to feel like I wasn’t doing the ‘right’thing. Follow your intuition. Babies have been carried close to their mother’s bodies since the beginning of time as well during the day and sleeping in families at night. Also, these crazy designs of baby carriers where little babies are facing out and not nuzzled into their mother’s chests or back seem to be a ‘new trend’ that could be a little frightening and overwhelming as well as over stimulating-this too could add to babies not settling as well to sleep.

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